Teal Swan: Citáty anglicky (strana 10)

“Dysfunctional relationship is not the exception. It is the norm. The only reason people don't realize it is because they've normalized the dysfunction.”

“Currently, what is expected is that a person does not get emotionally aroused or dysregulated, is not emotionally phased or affected by anything someone else does or does not do, does not blame anyone for what they do or don’t do that causes emotional harm and especially does not defend themselves from emotional harm. What is glorified in society is emotional neutrality/numbness… Not having emotions.”

“When we won’t admit to the truth of what we want, we simultaneously fight against our truth and for our truth.”

“At the core, people are creators. They can conceptualize of what does not yet exist. And they can bring it into a physical manifestation.”

“If people would understand that what we are calling mental illness is really just adaptive strategies for mitigating unsafety, it would completely change the approach we take with regards to mental illness.”

“Truth is the only opportunity you have to create real things in reality.”

“So many people are living from strategy instead of from authenticity. So many people are being strategic instead of honest; both with themselves and with others.”

“When we live in a society where people genuinely feel that what matters most is the romantic partnership, we have learned that other people will value and prioritize a romantic partner above all other relationships. Therefore, you are only genuinely secure and only have leverage for getting your needs met in a relationship, if you are that person’s romantic partner.”

“Just like water and air, connection with others is a basic human need.”

“A romantic partner is not all there is. It is not your only hope of getting the needs that you have reliably met. It is not your only hope of happiness. A great many needs that you have, which you are convinced can only come in the form of a romantic partner, are actually not dependent on a romantic partner.”

“If we see a romantic partnership as the only relationship that promises to meet our needs, we will put all the pressure on that other person to be the one to meet all of our needs, which is impossible. No one person can meet all of our needs. So, it is a set up for disappointment and for pain.”

“If we see a romantic partnership as the only relationship that promises to meet our needs, the only one that will make us happy, the only one in which we can feel secure and establish a sense of guarantee, we will fail to recognize and we will devalue all of the other forms of relationships around us; as well as the plentitude of resources that each one offers us.”

“People and families and cultures and religions and government organizations and educational sources and forms of entertainment have all been indoctrinating you with the false idea that marriage is the most important relationship you will have. And that the romantic pair bond is the only relationship in which your needs can be met.”

“One of the biggest barriers to people getting their needs met in the modern world is that so many people glorify the romantic partnership while devaluing every other type of relationship.”

“Much of the process of socialization that took place in the past and that takes place today, is a process of using the control tactic of shaming so as to create the desired behavior that we want.”

“No matter what your "should standard" would have you believe, the truth is that there is no shame in struggling.”

“There is a big difference between feeling shame and being shamed… The feeling we call shame is a natural biological affective reaction that is occurring when we fear social consequence. To shame someone is to use the natural biological affective reaction of shame as a tool for manipulating and controlling someone to suit your own interests.”

“People who were wounded by being incompatible with their family and therefore being pushed away, shamed and rejected for who they are, are desperate to belong. They are so desperate for connection that they commit to people who are incompatible to them even after they become aware of the incompatibility. It is a bit like being so desperate for water that you'll drink it even if you know it is poisoned.”

“Feeling is your compass. If you can feel, you have no cause to seek an outside opinion about your direction in life.”