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Eric Berne

Datum narození: 10. květen 1910
Datum úmrtí: 15. červenec 1970

Eric Berne, rozený Eric Lennard Bernstein, byl americký lékař a psychiatr. Vyvinul transakční analýzu jako psychoterapeutické jednání, které odvodil z psychoanalýzy.

„To může znamenat, že sice není naděje pro lidskou rasu, že však zbývá naděje pro její jednotlivé členy.“ Jak si lidé hrají

„The moment a little boy is concerned with which is a jay and which is a sparrow, he can no longer see the birds or hear them sing.“

„Awareness requires living in the here and now, and not in the elsewhere, the past or the future.“ Games People Play

„We are born princes and the civilizing process makes us frogs.“

„The eternal problem of the human being is how to structure his waking hours“ Games People Play

„A loser doesn’t know what he’ll do if he loses but talks about what he’ll do if he wins and a winner doesn’t talk about what he’ll do if he wins but knows what he’ll do if he loses.“

„The destiny of every human being is decided by what goes on inside his skull when confronted by what goes on outside his skull.“

„Beautiful friendships” are often based on the fact that the players complement each other with great economy and satisfaction, so that there is a maximum yield with a minimum effort from the games they play with each other.“ Games People Play

„Such a woman is called "Mother's FRIEND" always ready to give judicious Parental advice and living vicariously on the experience of others“ Games People Play

„Pastimes and games are substitutes for the real living of real intimacy.“ Games People Play: The Psychology of Human Relationships

„Society frowns upon candidness, except in privacy; good sense knows that it can always be abused; and the Child fears it because of the unmasking which it involves. Hence in order to get away from the ennui of pastimes without exposing themselves to the dangers of intimacy, most people compromise for games when they are available, and these fill the major part of the more interesting hours of social intercourse. That is the social significance of games.“ Games People Play

„Salesman: ‘This one is better, but you can’t afford it.’ Housewife: ‘That’s the one I’ll take.“ Games People Play: The Psychology of Human Relationships

„In short, a diamond bracelet is a much more honest instrument of courtship than a perforated stomach. She has the option of throwing the jewelry back at him, but she cannot decently walk out on the ulcer. ("Look How Hard I've Been Trying")“ Games People Play

„Game-free intimacy is or should be the most perfect form of human living.

Because there is so little opportunity for intimacy in daily life, and because some forms of intimacy (especially if intense) are psychologically impossible for most people, the bulk of time in serious social life is taken up with playing games. Hence games are both necessary and desirable, and the only problem at issue is whether the games played by an individual offer the best yield for him. In this connexion it should be remembered that the essential feature of a game is its culmination, or payoff. The principal function of the preliminary moves is to set up the situation for this payoff, but they are always designed to harvest the maximum permissible satisfaction at each step as a secondary product.

Games are passed on from generation to generation. The favoured game of any individual can be traced back to his parents and grandparents, and forward to his children.

Raising children is primarily a matter of teaching them what games to play. Different cultures and different social classes favour different types of games.

Many games are played most intensely by disturbed people, generally speaking, the more disturbed they are, the harder they play.

The attainment of autonomy is manifested by the release or recovery of three capacities: awareness, spontaneity and intimacy.

Parents, deliberately or unaware, teach their children from birth how to behave, think and perceive. Liberation from these influences is no easy matter, since they are deeply ingrained.

First, the weight of a whole tribal or family historical tradition has to be lifted. The same must be done with the demands of contemporary society at large, and finally advantages derived from one's immediate social circle have to be partly or wholly sacrificed. Following this, the individual must attain personal and social control, so that all the classes of behaviour become free choices subject only to his will. He is then ready for game-free relationships.“

„The solitary individual can structure time in two ways: activity and fantasy.“ Games People Play: The Psychology of Human Relationships

„The eternal problem of the human being is how to structure his waking hours.“ Games People Play: The Psychology of Human Relationships

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